Thursday, May 29, 2014

OFW single mom shares ill-fated romance, others could learn

The month of May marks the celebration of special women in our lives. Mother's Day which is always celebrated around the world on every second week of May gives the chance for many people to show our love and appreciation to all our mothers out there.

Now here, I want to share a story of a mother I knew. Who for the current time is going under a lot of stress when her marriage started to crumble down. Leaving her alone to rear for her child while battling the present issues of her life.

As her best friend for two (2) decades was given the authority to put into writing her unfortunate love story and how it came to be to the present.

Rara (not her real name), just became a single mom after finding out that her husband has cheated on her. She discovered that their wedding was null and invalidated. It appears that she is not the only person with a special place at her husband's heart.

Right after college, Rara immediately flew to Jeddah (Saudi Arabia) to put her knowledge to work. A closed-culture country where chance for socialization is way down low. In between those years she went back and forth to the Philippines to earn an MBA degree which she finished in 2005.

Way back 2004, the year when she met her estranged husband Daryl at an event held at her work place. Daryl was not much of a stranger to her for they had numerous meetings before but Rara was still too young to be concerned with the matters of the heart. Daryl was then the living in partner of her older sister's dentist.

Everytime her office held events for the Filipino community in Jeddah, he was there. She became more attracted to this guy and got more closer during the time of the pageant. This gave way to Daryl courting Rara which eventually led to them getting on together.

While Rara went back in the Philippines in 2005 to finish her MBA degree, they maintained a long-distance relationship which according to her was not easy. Their relationship was a bit unstable due to Daryl's trust issues. Days and nights she cried over it.

Year 2006, Daryl got the chance to spend more time with Rara. The two got more time to spend together and more often that not something special happened between them. Unknowingly, she has no idea she was already pregnant not until August of the same year she finally knew which Daryl denied his involvement.

They got married in Jeddah under civil marriage and seems Daryl wasn't sure on this idea. Her parents decided to separate them leaving her in emotional turmoil. Because of this, she innocently lost her child on a supposed to be scheduled check up with her OB (Obstetrics).

Rara was so devastated after losing her child and getting separated from his husband. It was the lowest time of her life. She  reached the point of taking her own life. Thank God that she didn't.

A couple of weeks, she learned to let go and started moving forward. 

She got back with Daryl the second time and again she fought  heaven and hell for her husband just to be with him. Their life as husband and wife was again put into test. For the time being Rara held on just to be with the one she love. Then again for the second time, they had a son - DL.

Not until year 2008, when the the winds changed unexpectedly.
Daryl's ex partner whom he had a child is troubling them with threats. And asked him to leave Rara in place of his paternal rights over his kid. She who had undergone the same fate gave way. She then blindedly signed their annulment letter with the promise from Daryl that they will be together again when things are sorted out.

Several years passed and she asked Daryl about the status of their annulment only to find out soon after. Rara had plans applying as an immigrant to Australia which will require not only money but several supporting documents for such application. One of which is a copy of their marriage contract since their child is carrying Daryl's surname.

It is then that she found out, that their marriage were annulled as early as 2009 and again her ex husband had married another girl. What made it more painful to bear is being spoken of with lashing words by someone whom you trusted your life with. Rara confronted Daryl and ended their relationship then and there.

Immediately, she moved out of the house with their child and went to her folks place. She didn't come to work for a couple of days to avoid further confrontation with him.

For several months, the estranged couple had bitter talks. Yet most of the time, Daryl threatens Rara with hurtful words and mis leading informations trying to break into the fortress she had built in her heart and soul.

Up until now, a battle is being raged between the two. No one still knows how and when will it end but only the truth will prevail when  everything comes to a stop.

The story of my best friend has touched my heart. Her struggles as a mother and most specially as a single parent reflects most of the lives of other single parents in the world. Though finding love from another person has brought her a painful journey, she kept her heart and soul strong for the welfare of her kid.


A story that every woman could feel the pain... a struggle that you never want to be in... love gave us the happiness but it could also be the saddest feeling in our life when it was given to a wrong person.. no regrets but lessons learned...

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